2021: Post Covid

 Hello Everyone! Welcome to moments with Tirzah😍

It's officially 61 days until the end of the year and 54 days before Christmas, so welcome to the new month! 

What are your thoughts right now? 

Is everything going as planned for you this year? 

Have you had to make any last-minute adjustments to your plans? 

Do friends or social media put you under pressure directly or indirectly? 

What kind of coping method have you used in the past? 

Allow me to speak first; I'll read yours in the comments section. 

Hmmm! 

2021! 

People said hype killed 2020's shine, so I made a point of not hyping 2021 at all so it could glooow😂. 

I kept a low profile, followed the rules, and put my best foot forward, yet I still couldn't cross everything off my 2021 to-do list. This year, I've wept a lot, had my highs and lows, and my share of sunshine. 

I thank God for blessing me with beautiful people, my family. They've been assisting me in dealing with difficult situations, and their support has kept me sane. Right now, I don't have everything sorted out, but I'm optimistic. 

“you can’t give up cos we aren’t raised to be losers or quitters. Pick yourself back up and make this next year count”

I'll wrap up today's discussion with a Bible quote.

Romans 12 vs 12: Let your hope make you glad. Be patient in time of trouble and never stop praying.

Sunday puff puff and zobo😋

 Growing up, We used to go to a large church where we had to wait a long time for cars parked after ours to move so we could go home after worship. That waiting time is puff puff and zobo time for my family. We no dey carry am, na 6-unit course🤣. 

I switched churches a few months back and was delighted to see a puff puff and zobo vendor outside the church. Every Sunday, just like in the old days, I mark register there. 

Today, I had already set aside my #200 for puff puff and zobo as usual and I was only waiting for closing prayer. Rather than leaving right after we said the grace, I opted to wait a few minutes for the surge to subside. That's how someone noticed me and offered to drive me home. I wanted to cry!It was someone I couldn't refuse at the same time someone for whom I couldn't wait for puff puff and zobo sake. I was deep in thought as I sat in the car, "so na like this I no go chop puff puff today😭." I reason am until I got home. Even as I dey type so I still dey reason am🤣. 

What's like my Sunday puff puff and zobo to you? I’d love to hear it. Happy Sunday, and may your new week be prosperous. I adore you all❤️.

First born child: The travail

 I went out to grab something, and as I walked into our compound, I noticed my next-door neighbor's three children outside. The oldest was putting away the clothes that their mother had washed earlier in the day. She was also assisting the other two siblings with their assignments at the same time. 

While passing I thought about the struggles of being the firstborn; The duty, parents and society's high expectations are all so great that if one isn't careful, they lose their willpower and simply do what is required of them. I'm sure she had her own assignments that she'd have to complete almost entirely on her own.

Parents sometimes hold their firstborn children up as role models for their younger siblings, which can be a lot of pressure. They are expected to mature into more responsible individuals at an earlier age than other children. Some of the challenges and stressors that first-borns face are:

* They are occasionally chastised or yelled at for anything the younger children have done incorrectly, they constantly hear words like "where were you when..." or "why did you allow..." As a firstborn, I believe our parents forget that we are just as much children as our younger siblings. What difference does it make if you're a year or two older?

* They are expected to teach stuff they were not taught and had to figure out on their own. Isn't that cheating?!

* It's exhausting and frustrating to be constantly reminded of your responsibilities. For example, I can't tell you how many times my father told me as a kid that "firstborn isn't for enjoyment alone, it's for responsibility" and I couldn't even point to any special thing I was enjoying as a first born at that time.

* And, once you start earning money, you must meet all of your siblings' demands, regardless of whether you have any because you are the bigger person in their eyes, and money shouldn't be an issue for you.

These and other factors contribute to the tendency of first-borns to be perfectionists; they were raised with the expectation that they should always know what to do, with no space for mistakes, and that everything must be perfect. Instead of continuously berating a firstborn for not doing something perfectly, commend them for putting in the work next time.

Do you have a younger sibling? Have you ever had to take care of them? Or do you think the pressure/responsiblity is not much of a big deal? 

11/10/21 MY FIRST POST ON THE PREVIOUS BLOG

 Hello everyone ✌️,

Welcome to my Travel and lifestyle blog. I'm Iretioluwa Toluwalase O. and I'm from Nigeria. You can call me Tirzah. I'm a biochemist, a baker @tirzahpastries and I tells stories too. I am a fun-loving person, which is why I started this blog: to keep track of all of my fantastic personal and professional events, as well as my travel adventures, in informal but honest blog postings. I hope you enjoy the voyage, and please remember to share this blog post and subscribe to the site for regular updates.

Thank you very much!

07/02/23

Hi everyone, 

Every details still remains pretty much the same just a little bit of changes here and there. e.g 

Your girl is a married woman😂(Omitted initially)

The Tolu Brand is the official name now, registered and stamped

I'm a biochemist, currently doing my masters

Ermm, I'm now a retired baker (hopefully, someday soon, I'll pick up the whisk again)

I still love telling stories.

What would you like to see on this page?

SIGH!

 HI GUYS👋,

Happy happy happy new year and plenty happy new months. 

Trust me, this isn't the welcome back I intended giving. It has been on my mind for a while now to find my way back to storytelling but I've been struggling- trying to figure how much is too much and what exactly I'd be comfortable sharing real-time because it's been a while I shared anything real-time.

I also toyed with the idea of using another platform but eventually, I decided to stick with this for now. 

Unfortunately for me, when I finally picked up my broom to dust the cobwebs that must have accrued, I found out that something I did IGNORANTLY in 2020 had affected my account😭 and there's gon be a lot of problems in the future. 

You see that picture up there, that was my exact face when I found out. 'O PADA GBENUTAN'

Starting all over again was the only solution I could come up with - Here we are.

I'd try as much as possible to repost the previous contents on the other blog here and close the initial one down forever.

Welcome to a new dispensation🥂